Healing A Mother Wound
For women with a mother wound, relationships can be hard. Due to shame from a mother wounds, we hide parts of ourselves from others. We think we need to have it all together in order to be accepted by other women.This leads us to not authentically connect with others. This isn’t good, because relationships are at the core of our security and wholeness. But we listen to the record player in our head saying, “these women have it all together. I am the only one who is a mess. I am the only one who doesn’t have it together. I can’t be vulnerable. I can’t let them see the real me.” With this thinking, instead of feeling deeply connected to those we are in relationship with, we feel alone. We work hard to conceal and protect the undesirable parts of your story, which leads to isolation. We long for communion with others and the opportunity to feel known. Yet there is a pain filled part of ourselves we do not want anyone to know.
Complete the exercise below, bringing your story to light.
It can be hard to find the words to describe your experience. Especially when the harm is not so obvious and overt. But making space to reflect, tracking your bodily sensations and examining your relationship with your mother can be a great way to find words for your experience and begin the healing process.
Fill in the blanks.
When I am around my mother I feel __________________ and it makes me want to __________________.
The last time I felt truly connected to my mom I was ______________________.
I long to experience a mother who ____________________________________.
If I could tell my mom something without any shame or guilt, I’d tell her _______.
If I saw my mom’s inner child right before me, I would tell her ______________.
A lesson I learned from my mother does that does not support me is ________.
A belief I internalized from my mother that I want to let go of is ____________.
I hope my mom can one day see that I am ____________________________.
I pray my mother understands _____________________ and experiences ______________.
Every daughter is meant to be delighted in, securely loved, blessed, affirmed, nurtured, taught, disciplined, and given direction in life. When loved well, we develop the capacity to trust, play, receive, and obey. When trauma interferes, it may feel like we will never attain feeling delighted in, but the good news is we can find healing! As we rise to know our identify the world becomes a beautiful place!
Your story matters, Your life matters. Start your healing journey by allowing us at Therapy Solutions to listen authentically to your story. To set up an appointment with one of our mental health therapists, contact 701-483-1000 and Take Your Life Back